Looking for LGBTQ Youth Advice? 'THE IMPACT PROGRAM' Might Help.

As a part of the LGBTQ community, it is vital to find support from organizations and individuals, whether it be family, friends or for- and non-profit organizations. There are specific organizations that work with the wider LGBT community, as well as folks who worth specifically with you: LGBT youth. Searching on the web is a great place to start.

THE IMPACT PROGRAM at Northwestern University is just one of many awesome websites (besides Acts of Greatness!) that caters specifically to you as an LGBTQ youth. The Impact Program is a research-based organization that receives funding from major foundations such as the National Institutes of Health to find ways to improve LGBTQ health, as well as increase understanding about LGBTQ people in society.

That might sound a big heavy and boring, but trust me: Sites like this can provide a means of support you need from people who make it their job to understand teens.

On the Impact Program's site, you can learn about their studies on LGBT youth and sexuality, read their youth-centered blog that answers questions many LGBTQ youth have -- maybe even some you've had.  Like:

You can also participate in interactive media such as quizzes and videos, and create videos of your own to reach out to and encourage other LGBTQ youth.


Websites like Acts of Greatness and the Impact Program can help you find your sense of self or help others while doing so. You’re not only learning but you can share your own experiences to serve other youth who are in similar situations and need support. 

So, why don't you take some time to check it out and see what it can do for you? 


Photo courtesy of The Impact Program.

"Gayyyme for Anything": An Open Letter to Kate McKinnon

Note: Kate McKinnon is the first openly lesbian cast member of Saturday Night Live, and was nominated for two Emmy Awards in 2014. 

Dear Kate,

If you are reading this, then please come to brunch with me.  We’ll bond over our shared love of Julia Louis-Dreyfus, the Vegetti, and Food Network.

Okay, there are two problems with that proposal.  1) I don’t actually watch Food Network.  And 2) you’re not reading this, because Saturday Night Live Season 40 has just begun, and you’re busy getting in frame with Chris Pratt.

I appreciate your work.  By being openly gay, you’re breaking down walls for LGBTQ actors and comedians—and on a smaller scale, you’re breaking down walls for me. I first saw you on the Big Gay Sketch Show two years ago. I was 18, and the good Lord had just blessed me with Netflix. I had never seen anything like BGSS before, because its comedic platform didn’t just tolerate LGBTQ identities, it celebrated them.

"Fitzwilliam the Gender-Confused English Boy" was the first sketch I ever saw that addressed trans* identities in a creative way, rather than the tired “Surprise!  She’s a man!” trope. I entertained a sloppy Jewish crush on Julie Goldman, envied your relationship in “Lesbian Speed Dating,” and felt proud to identify with many of the jokes on the show.  You threw yourself into every character you played, and it showed.

I’ve always been ashamed of being gay.  (Hell, I’m writing this under a pen name in case my grandparents ever discover the Internet.)  But I’ve started to, quite honestly, just get over it. I’m queer.  And proud.  And I write.  Next?

Although I’ve always loved comedy, it wasn’t until I gluttonized on BGSS that I seriously considered writing for the screen.  I’m not naïve—I’m a queer woman of color, and Hollywood isn’t bending over backwards to hand out QWOC producer credits—but seeing you embrace your sexuality on screen helped me realize that I can do the same thing.  Or at least dream about it. 

It’s terrifying to be out in the workplace, especially in the entertainment industry, but  performers such as you, Neil Patrick Harris, and the entire cast of RuPaul’s Drag Race prove that one can be both wildly queer and wildly successful.

This is an open letter for two reasons.  1) Because right now, you’re probably cooking zucchini pasta instead of reading this.  2) Because this letter isn’t actually for you.  It’s for the young lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, asexual, pansexual, genderqueer, genderbending, agender and fabulous teenagers who are scared to be themselves.  This letter is to remind them that embracing their identities is terrifying, but it’s worth it, and it never hurts to laugh along the way.

I plan to keep writing and I plan to keep being gay.  Both identities are terrifying, are unchangeable, and nearly gave my parents heart attacks.  So thank you for being an inspiration to me.  Thank you for showing LGBTQ youth how to embrace their true identities.  Thank you for doing a flawless Angela Merkel impression.

 If you happen to see this letter, my dear Kate McKinnon, then please send me an email (ümail?).  It would make my year.  But even if you never see this, then thank you for the work that you’ve already done, and I look forward to seeing how you—and other LGBTQ young adults—conquer the world.

Cheers and queers,



Catch McKinnon in other inspirational lesbian roles, including Bethany on Vag Magazine, Justin Bieber on Saturday Night Live, and Just Jamie on Hudson Valley Ballers.

Looking for other comedy shows?  I recommend The Big Gay Sketch Show, Words with Girls, Vag Magazine, Julie Goldman - Lady Gentleman, and Féminin/Féminin.


Photo courtesy of Pedro Simoes / Flickr.

4 Hard Truths about LGBTQ Self-Acceptance

As an adult lesbian, I’ve sometimes found it difficult to find self-acceptance. I don’t know if this is the case for you as adolescents coming into adulthood, but I imagine you have either been through this at some point or may be going through it now.

I wish I had all the answers as an older, wiser person, but the truth is, I don’t. I have, however, learned a few things along my way of coming out and growing into who I am. Here are some of them:

(1) It’s okay to dislike yourself -- as long as you work towards getting over it.

You might think this is counterproductive and kind of dumb. It came naturally for me and possibly you too. I learned that disliking myself for some time and because I didn’t fit in or was unaccepted by others actually caused me to have a better appreciation and greater self-love once I got over the initial self-hatred.


(2)  Feeling alone is normal.

Whether you’re approaching something new or coming out, it’s normal to feel alone at times. It can be very discouraging and sometimes it may even feel impossible to continue on solo. But there is some consolation for you: eventually your aloneness will be met with new friends, supportive family and organizations and other sources you never imagined. It's hard to trust in what you can't see, but take my word.


(3) You can’t change how others think of you. You can only change how you think about yourself.

 Others will form their own opinions about you and your sexuality. That’s okay. They are entitled to those opinions and no matter what you do, you cannot change them. You can, however, change yourself and how you view yourself as a person. Over time, you will learn to love yourself and see yourself as a valuable person.


(4) You may feel like giving up on yourself and others -- but it'll be worth it to stay strong.

At times, you might feel hopeless, worthless or even suicidal. Do not give up on yourself! You are worthy of living, a wonderful human being, and you deserve happiness. Also, don’t give up on others. They may be shocked, in disagreement with your life; however, they have the ability to come around and accept you just as you are. Don’t think because their initial reaction is negative that it will always be that way.


There are no words to describe the relief you will feel once you accept yourself as you are, even if some initial experiences can be momentarily painful. You are loved, valued and important as a future generation. You forge the way to more acceptance for all and to show it’s okay to be who you are and love it.


Photo courtesy of  lint machine / Flickr.